Monday, February 26, 2007

The Pyjama Post

In an effort to escape from my slavish devotion to the typical blogging formula (which Andrea sums up succinctly as "anecdote, rumination, epiphany, resolution"), I thought I’d mix things up today by doing a Seinfeld-style post about nothing. Pyjamas, I thought, would be the perfect topic. First, there’s the great spelling debate: pyjamas or pajamas? Then there are the various preferences: negligee, flannel nightie, or (my personal favourite) bona fide two-piece flannel jammy-jams covered in polka dots. What I failed to take into account, though, was that (a) I am no Seinfeld, and (b) I am no Seinfeld.

Undeterred by my failure to spin this very ordinary straw into comic gold, I thought perhaps I could do a photo post: start with a picture of me striking a ridiculous pose in my brand-new candy-cane flannel pyjamas, add a photo of Bub looking adorable in an old pill-ball-y navy sleeper, and call it a day. It’s amazing, though, how few photographs I have of any members of my family in a pyjama-clad state. Aside from a few Christmas morning pics, there’s nothing (nada, zip).

While I was looking through my photo archive, though, I came across this:


I remember how horrified I was when this photo was taken. I came very close to destroying it altogether, before deciding to keep it as documentary evidence of the hideousness of my post-partum body.

Then, a few months later, I decided to fool around with the colour and focus, trying to see if there was a way to edit the photo to make it anything other than a horror show. I gave up in disgust after turning it all pink and blurry – there’s just no way to edit away the curve of that paunch.

And then, today, I looked at that photo and gasped at the beauty and fragility of that two-day-old baby, with tears in my eyes. Who cares what my belly looks like? I made that.

Finally, by way of a contrast, here’s a photo of what Bub’s face looked like moments after he was born (he’s four months old in this photo, but the expression is identical):



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Hey look! I’m the CHBM Mom of the Week! I’ve been secretly longing for this honour for months, so a very hearty thank-you to everyone who voted.

40 comments:

Jennifer (ponderosa) said...

What struck me in the first pic is how comfortable you look with that baby. When my kids were that age I was panic-stricken!

MOM-NOS said...

Just this week, Bud and I had a conversation about the correct way to pronouce "jammies," because we are a decidedly jammie-family, and not a pj-family. I've always worn "JAH-mies," and so has Bud. But recently, he has started - by influence of tv or school or seven-year-old-whim - wearing "JAM-mies." Imagine that: a child of mine wearing JAM-mies.

Not to worry. I've since set him straight.

bubandpie said...

Jen - That was the nice thing about the Pie: I was able to be relaxed and even, at times, euphoric after her birth, whereas with Bub it was very much a case of being panic-stricken.

Mom-NOS - It's all JAM all the time around here (sorry).

karrie said...

I should post one of mine for you. I'm a good 100 lbs heavier than I am now thanks to massive weight gain and post-surgery fluid retention.

I'm a bit obsessed with pajamas. The way some women are with bags or shoes. I should be ashamed, but I'm not.

Karen said...

b&p, as a three time postpartum-er (word?) and a doula, my thinking on the subject is that the postpartum woman has her own unique vulnerable beauty. I'm glad you kept that photo, save it for Pie as she may be glad of it one day as well. I was caught off-guard by post-partum everything. You and Pie look lovely, tender and sweet.

cinnamon gurl said...

The Pie looks like that belly is the world's most perfect place to be, and you like it's the most perfect place for her to be. There is a glow about you in the photo, and I don't think it's just the pink frosting. Beautiful.

I used to sleep in nighties but they are not breastfeeding friendly. It's tshirt and shorts for me now...

Mommy-Like Days said...

I know exactly what pyjama picture you were thinking of! I have it in my mind, and enjoyed it while reading this post.
You are crazy and hip.

MOM-NOS said...

Oh, Bubandpie, and you were showing such friend-potential...

Tell me how bad this is. Are they pa-JAM-as, and not pa-JAH-mas?

Mimi said...

my jammies are more put-together and stylin' than my other clothes. there's my priorities for you. sigh.

it's fun watching you try to break the mold. the angst over the not-nothing of your writing style is in fact *very* seinfeldian ...

Beck said...

I was always so sad, immidiately post-baby to discover that my body did not immidiately go back to it's pre-baby state - but just looking at the sweetness of that baby reminded me of how worthwhile it truly was.
We're a jammies family. In fact, should it be post 7 p.m. at my house, pajamas ARE the dresscode.

c4cara said...

You look lovely! Look at your relaxed happy face and the lovely new person...
I know how Bub feels. It gets better dude, it really does.

I'm an old t-shirt or neked girl.
People buy me nice pj's and I never wear them. I figure I have to be all rolled up in cloth all day, I like to have some freedom in the dark, when no-one can see me.

kgirl said...

i think you look awesome. and i love the lava lamp.

Jenifer G. said...

I agree with Mimi...there was something very "Seinfeld" about NOT being able to write about nothing. Sorry, I was a serious addict. Attended Festivus parties, won lots of trivia contests....

We are a jammies house too. The first thing I do when I get home is change into jammies just about everyday. Once I am home for the rest of the day, I get comfy. My favourite are flannel, plaid or striped, two-piece jammies. I do love my yoga style pants for lounging that I bought at Costco too.

One of my favourite (and thoughtful) gifts I received when Rosebud was born was matching jammies for the girls. Cool ,stripy ones from the Gap. It was so nice to include Papoosie Girl and it made for some cute photos.

I had a different pp belly, pretty flat, but the softest, mushiest thing ever. Like bread dough. I was a very strange pregnant woman (lost weight up until 7th month) and even stranger pp where I actually weighed less than before I got pregnant. Only to gain it all back and more during my maternity leave.

Pie looks like an angel.

NotSoSage said...

You both just look like you're home.

And congrats on the nomination!

bubandpie said...

Mom-NOS - Definitely paJAMas (pyJAMas?). No exceptions to the jam rule. :)

Mad Hatter said...

I have a similar picture, when Miss M is 5 months old. She is glorious in it but I hide it away to hide my belly. Oh and in case you didn't notice in that last sentence, she is 5 MONTHS OLD and I still have the belly.

That picture of Bub is to die for.

In our house, the expression is "jim-jams".

s@bd said...

There's a blogging formula?!

whaaa?

Miscellaneous-Mum said...

I shall have to dig out a PJ photo of me post-baby with baby #1. She was a 'winter baby' (although born in Autumn, its as cold then where I live).

I shall take hideousness to a new level!

Absolutely beautiful photos of bubs

Sandra said...

Oh ... I love those photos. Of pie. Of your beautiful post-baby self. Fabulous.

Congrats on being CHBM of the week. It's about time. You are the CHBM of the year in my books!

Sarah said...

That is a beautiful picture of you and your babe!! Im so glad you didn't delete it!

Sober Briquette said...

I think just about everyone except you will focus on your maternal beauty and tiny Pie. This is true of everyone's "bad" pictures - save them! Maybe in a drawer instead of on the mantle, but save them.

My daughter gets piqued every night because I refer to her nightgown as pjs.

Kelly said...

It takes one's breath away doesn't it? Just how lovely our children are to behold.

And it made me actually pine for the little body so tiny again, something I pretty much never do!

And though I know pajamas starts with the letter P, and subsequently the sound 'puh' starts the word, I'll take my 3-year old's pronunciation any day of the week: she calls them 'majamas.'

erin k said...

"They" kind of forget to tell you that you'll still pass as pregnant after giving birth.
Oh, and you are all wrong! It is PJs.

Iris said...

what beautiful pictures.......both of them, belly and all......

and that pout, amazing!

Oh, The Joys said...

I love that photo of you. You are not one to post photos of yourself very often and I am so happy to see your face - and YES! You made THAT!

Also, congrats on the CHBMs Mom of the Week. Hurrah! Totally deserved - maybe Mom of the MONTH!

jen said...

photos of you are rare, so that was a delight. and a good journey.

congrats on the nod. and it's got to be paj.

metro mama said...

Great pic of Bub.

Congratulations!

Lisa b said...

Its totally pajama time here.
I love the photo with the pie. All I noticed was the adorable baby. Having been there I then read into it that you are one tired lady.
I have a couple of photos I feel differntly about now having seeing yours and the beauty in it.

V-Grrrl said...

We at Chez V say pa-JAH-mahs. My favorites are some indigo velour ones that I got after my daughter was born 9.5 years ago!

I have a photo of myself very similar to yours. My newborn daughter and I are asleep in the recliner. I'm wearing a pink robe and even though I'm reclined way back, my belly still rises up in all its mountainous glory and the robe's belt is practically under my boobs.

nomotherearth said...

I didn't know about the pyjamas vs pajamas debate - I've always been focused on pyJAMas vs pyJAHmas. I always say pyJAHmas and I have no idea why. I've stopped trying to say it a different way.

Funny, I used to be a satin teddy girl, but now I'm all about the t-shirt and drawstring pants. Poor Mr Earth.

Congrats on CHBM! You deserve it.

kgirl said...

just wanted to let you know that i went to chbm to congratulate you there, and i was so excited that i spelled my new moniker wrong. awesome!

Her Bad Mother said...

The photo is deliciously beautiful. Mama-love at it's finest.

(congrats on CHBM! well-deserved!)

Aliki2006 said...

My husband always teases me about the fact that no sooner is dinner over then I put my paJAMas on and head into the bedtime routine with the kids. There was a time, though, when I put on my paJAMas right before bed, at around midnight, or 1:00 a.m. even.

What has happened?

ewe are here said...

Just 2 days old?! I think you look fabulous - and so completely at ease with your new role. And such a lovely, lovely sleeping baby you have there. ;-)

lildb said...

I said it there, I'll say it here: I'm P-R-O-U-D and I don't even need to rely on the swears to back my pride up. (Although I feel you owe me a few buttons.)

Also: your wee babe in that photo is tear-jerkingly gorg. But then, you knew that. You even said it. So. I needn't leave this statement in my comment. But I'm gonna to prove - um, something.

Lastly. My love for you is unceasing. 'Cause you're super-duper. (And I'm riding the last of the now-flagging high of having J in daycare for the first time ever.)

xoxoxo

Jaelithe said...

Bub seriously came out looking like that? Oh, I so love that Bub. Bub, you are my kind of grumpy little dude.

And Pie was simply radiant as a newborn.

We should ALL put up just-post-partum photos. Then maybe the next generation would know that was normal, and stop freaking out about it.

I suppose that's what Shape of a Mother is for, but it might help more to do it on individual blogs and reach a wider audience.

However I am not sure I even allowed my husband to take any photos showing my belly that early on after Isaac was born.

I suppose there is always the next time!

Kyla said...

Jammies, pjs, pajamas...any of those will do around here.

THAT is a beautiful thing to make. I'm so glad you kept that photo. It is gorgeous.

Redneck Mommy said...

You looked way better than I ever did two days after giving birth. Kudos to you!!!

I don't know if I'd be as brave as you to post a pic of myself from that era. I am fairly vain.

But as always, you've inspired me. I may not post a pic, but I am going to look at them differently!

Mitch McDad said...

Sure the belly's a tad prolific in the photo...but my God, it's days days post birth. And at risk of challenging my manhood. It's one of the sweetest pics I've seen in a while...excluding my kids of course. :)

Suki said...

awwwwww!!!!!!!!! You and your babies are SO. VERY. CUTE!
I think there's something so very special about a mom holding her baby. No matter how she looks, it's that expression on her face that reminds me why it's worth having periods, mood swings, pregnancy, breasts and all the shit with comes with being female. You look beautiful in that pic, lady. I mean it.

and about the jammies... I'm partial to nightgowns that can make me feel like I'm wearing nothing in this tropical heat! :P